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Originally posted here.

Getting in the Mood:

 

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Male and female (and everything in between, it’s a spectrum) anatomy is formed from the same parts!

Sex is often represented as something that is fast and dirty with lots of eager, panting motions, but it isn’t always that way… Getting turned on is a MAJOR part of sex, a part that is very often overlooked. Different things turn different people on and the process is very complicated and personal. While every person is turned on by different things, the biological process of being turned on is basic:

Before actually doing the nasty, a series of events must take place in order for the experience to be the best it can be. Some research suggests that 30 minutes of foreplay leads to the BEST of the BEST sex (aka an encounter that is chock full of climaxes). However, while aiming for the best is great, sub-best sex is still great. If you think about it, if you only ever had the BEST sex, it wouldn’t actually be the best anymore…

It is important to remember that every person is different in terms of what turns them on and how long it takes them to get in the mood. There are some universal differences between men and women, but there is still a vast ocean of variability between all individuals.  Generally speaking, women are looking more for the “ideal personality” while men are looking for the “ideal look.” This makes sense in evolutionary terms: women are, deep, deep down, looking for a quality collaborator while men are, deep, deep down looking for quality ways to spread their seed. Still, there must always be an emphasis on VARIABILITY, everyone is different even though we are basically all the same…

Suggestion: Ask your partner (or partners) what turns them on…just the act of asking might end up being a turn on…

Arousal is, in essence, a process of turning on the on’s (activating the sexual accelerator) and off the off’s (deactivating the sexual breaks). Accomplishing this depends on every individual whose accelerator and breaks are uniquely molded by their explicit and implicit sexual education. Context matters. Context really, really matters. Just imagine you and your partner are trying to get down to business but there is a baby crying in the next room, no amount of romantic music and candlelight is going to make that context sexy. However, yet again, I cannot stress enough how important it is to understand that everyone is different. The right context versus the wrong one varies between individuals. Sometimes individuals under stress have increased sex drives and others might have a dwindled sex drive while stressed…what’s the lesson? COMMUNICATE. Maybe it’s awkward, but trust me, it is so worth it.

Once You’re in the Mood

The stages…

Excitement: Increased heart rate and blood pressure, increased sensitivity, nipple erection, increased odor, lubrication and erection.

Plateau: Continued increase in heart rate and blood pressure, increased breathing rate, and involuntary muscle contractions.

Orgasm: Heart rate, blood pressure and breathing rate reach maximum levels, and involuntary muscle spasms.

Resolution Phase: Return to non-excited state.

Physiological responses to sexual stimuli DO NOT necessarily indicate desire or consent!

The Finale

These days we have a bunch of options for birth control so sex isn’t always about making babies. And even if babies are not your thing, it is pretty cool to see how they get made…

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Check out this great article on the Egg and Sperm Story

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